Be Happy

We hold on to so many things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering – and instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress free and happy – we cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting today we will give up on all those things that no longer serve us, and let's embrace change. 

Ready? Here we go:

The need, to Always 'Be Right'

There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask this question:

 “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?”  ~Wayne Dyer

What difference will that make? Is our ego really that big?

The Need for Control

Be willing to give up the need; to always control everything that happens – situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers we meet on the street – just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and  see how much better it will be.

“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.” ~Lao Tzu

Blame, the Lame Game

 Give up on the need to blame others for what we have or don’t have, for what we feel or don’t feel. Stop giving our powers away and start taking responsibility for our life.

That Self-defeating Self-talk

 Oh my. How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe everything that our mind is telling – especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. We are better than that.

“The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.” ~Eckhart Tolle

Those Limiting Beliefs

About what we can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible. From now on, we are no longer going to allow those limiting beliefs to keep us stuck in the wrong place. Spread the wings and fly!

“A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind.” ~Elly Roselle

Oh no, that Complaining Prick

Give up the constant need to complain about those many, many, many things – people, situations, events that make us unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make us unhappy, no situation can make sad or miserable unless we allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in us, but how we choose to look at it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.

Ahaa, the Luxury of Criticism

Give up the need to criticize things, events or people that are different. We are all different, yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all.

Arghh, that Need to Impress Others

Stop trying so hard to be something that we’re not just to make others like us. It doesn't work this way. The moment we stop trying so hard to be something that we’re not, the moment we take off all our masks, the moment we accept and embrace the real, we will find people will be drawn to us, effortlessly.

Oh Yeaah, the Resistance to Change

 Change is good. Change will help us move from A to B. Change will help to make improvements in our life and also the lives of those around us. Follow bliss, embrace change – don’t resist it.

“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls.” ~Joseph Campbell

Ohlalaa, those Expensive Labels

 Stop labeling those things, people or events that don’t understand as being weird or different and try opening mind, little by little. Minds only work when open.

 “The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.” ~Wayne Dyer

X-Factor Fears

Fear is just an illusion, it doesn't exist – we created it. It’s all in our mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place.

“The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.” ~Franklin D. Roosevelt

Amazing Ways of Excuses

Send them packing and tell them they’re fired. We no longer need them. A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses – excuses that 99.9% of the time are not even real.

Uhhhh, Exhausted Past

I know, I know. It’s hard. Especially when the past looks so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening, but we have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all we have and all will ever have. Stop deluding. Be present in everything we do and enjoy life. After all life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare, but always be "present".

Ohoohohooo, Stimulating Attachment(s)

This is a concept that, for most of us is so hard to grasp and I have to tell, that it is for me too, but it’s not something impossible. one get better and better at with time and practice. The moment we detach our self from all things, (and that doesn't mean to give up your love for them – because love and attachment have nothing to do with one another,  attachment comes from a place of fear, while love… well, real love is pure, kind, and self less, where there is love there can’t be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene.

Untie, Other's Expectations

Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to other people’s expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need….and eventually they forget about themselves.  We have one life – this one right now – we must live it, own it, and especially don’t let other people’s opinions distract us from our path.

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